Archive for December, 2010

Greetings from Sunny California! Happy New Year!

December 31, 2010

Well, it is sunny and I am having a wonderful vacation…but there are some Californians who tell lies when it comes to the weather here.  It is really cold and damp here this time of year…right now at 8:42AM it is 45 degrees…have you ever heard any self-respecting southern Californian tell you that such a temperature exists here in the Los Angeles area even in December.  I don’t know, I keep hearing accounts from my friend Stu that it’s 85 degrees and that he’s been wearing shorts! SHORTS??? With what else…a mink coat?  The high for today is supposed to be 55 degrees.  Enough about that!

Having said all of the that, back in the Philadelphia area, it’s around 30 degrees right now and I understand that 12 inches of snow was a gift to Philadelphians on Monday.  Oh, it was such fun to wake up in Santa Moncia and hear about the weather back home and call our wonderful Snow Slayer, Terry, and ask him to take care of shoveling our property…what a treat!  Yes, life is good…

Yesterday I had a phenominal massage at The Massage Place  by a wonderful massage therapist, Karen. She is a healer, truly.  Here is her website.  www.westlakeholistic.com.

That’s all for now…time to get ready to go to a birthday brunch!

This is MeddlingMom!  If your favorite single guy needs a personal hygiene boost, take a look at subscribing for him to meet all of his toiletry and grooming  needs.  www. automatedmom.com or www.automatedman.com

Christmas, Chanukkah, Kwanzaa, what else? December 8, 2009 by meddlingmom Christmas, Chanukkah, Kwanzaa….I am wondering at this time of year… .how do you feel if you do not celebrate the big “C”? take your pick…Christ or Christmas…the insanity of the media, commercials, Christmas music, Christmas shows, Christmas gifts, holiday shopping, etc. What is it like for you or your children if you don’t celebrate a gift-giving holiday (Holy Day)….I have some young friends who are not Christian. I have not had the courage to ask the children how they feel about all of this celebrating? and gift giving that they will not be a part of…at the very least it must make them feel DIFFERENT. How tough is that…..Christmas songs at school, Christmas decorations, Santa Claus everywhere…I wonder how they feel. I know I am not thrilled with all of the hoopla…it leaves nothing to the imagination and not much opportunity to create an original thought on how to celebrate…mind boggling…listed below are 2 alternative ideas for those who DO have gifts to buy and are looking for something a little more interesting and something truly unique. There is a wonderful new company, Automated Man with a great product and service for men. With Automated Man you’ll get all your toiletry needs delivered to your door, once a month, name brands cheaper than you’d pay at the store (no kidding!). $140 worth of stuff, for only $39.99 Sign Up once, cancel whenever……www.automatedman.com With Automated Mom, if you are a mom and have a son who lives away from home, take a look at http://www.automatedmom.com. You can take care of your son…and stay in charge of your finances. Automated Man/Mom will deliver all your son’s must-have toiletries every month. This is a great bargain and you will always know that your son or brother or whatever male in your life won’t run out of toiletries (including condoms-and that’s critical!)…they simply won’t have to think about these products…again…Visit the websites to watch informative videos and read the blog…lots of cool things to read and see. Subscribe and Save Now! Package Deal! The other item that is unique is the gift (maybe to yourself!) of the services of a Personal Life Coach. Coaching is a partnership formed between a Personal Life Coach/Strategist and a Client in order to collaborate to define the Client’s current situation and goals and devise a strategy to pro-actively create a better life for the Client. “A fulfilling life is one in which your life and actions reflect your values and priorities.” Take a look at www.ChaosControlCoaching.com to better understand the range of services available. I hope this has been helpful and that your time in the next few weeks will be a little calmer. Chaos Control Coaching’s website has a number of interesting articles on a variety of topics (Stress, Parenting, ADD/ADHD, Divorce, Bridal Jitters, Relationship Tips) that may be of interest to you or someone in your tribe. Have a good night. MeddlingMom Tags: ADD/ADHD, AM, automated man, Brides, Chanukkah, chaos control coaching, Christmas, Christmas music, Christmas songs, Coaching, Divorce, Effective, Kwanzaa

December 19, 2010

originally posted December 8, 2009 by MeddlingMom

Christmas, Chanukkah, Kwanzaa….I am wondering at this time of year…  .how do you feel if you do not celebrate the big “C”? take your pick…Christ or Christmas…the insanity of the media, commercials, Christmas music, Christmas shows, Christmas gifts, holiday shopping, etc. What is it like for you or your children if you don’t celebrate a gift-giving holiday (Holy Day)….I have some young friends who are not Christian. I have not had the courage to ask the children how they feel about all of this celebrating? and gift giving that they will not be a part of…at the very least it must make them feel DIFFERENT.  How tough is that…..Christmas songs at school, Christmas decorations, Santa Claus everywhere…I wonder how they feel.

I know I am not thrilled with all of the hoopla…it leaves nothing to the imagination and not much opportunity to create an original thought on how to celebrate…mind boggling…listed below are 2 alternative ideas for those who DO have gifts to buy and are looking for something a little more interesting and something truly unique.

There is a wonderful new company, Automated Man with a great product and service for men.

With Automated Man you’ll get all your toiletry needs delivered to your door, once a month, name brands cheaper than you’d pay at the store (no kidding!). $140 worth of stuff, for only $39.99

Sign Up once, cancel whenever……www.automatedman.com

With Automated Mom, if you are a mom and have a son who lives away from home, take a look at http://www.automatedmom.com.  You can take care of your son…and stay in charge of your finances.
Automated Man/Mom will deliver all your son’s must-have toiletries every month. This is a great bargain and you will always know that your son or brother or whatever male in your life won’t run out of toiletries (including condoms-and that’s critical!)…they simply won’t have to think about these products…again…Visit the websites to watch informative videos and read the blog…lots of cool things to read and see.
Subscribe and Save Now!

Package Deal!

The other item that is unique is the gift (maybe to yourself!) of the services of a Personal Life Coach.  Coaching is a partnership formed between a Personal Life Coach/Strategist and a Client in order to collaborate to define the Client’s current situation and goals and devise a strategy to pro-actively create a better life for the Client.

“A fulfilling life is one in which your life and actions reflect your values and priorities.” Take a look at www.ChaosControlCoaching.com to better understand the range of services available.

I hope this has been helpful and that your time in the next few weeks will be a little calmer. Chaos Control Coaching’s website has a number of interesting articles on a variety of topics (Stress, Parenting, ADD/ADHD, Divorce, Bridal Jitters, Relationship Tips) that may be of interest to you or someone in your tribe.

Have a good night.

MeddlingMom

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The Christmas Crunch – Shopping-Spending-Stressing-WHY???

December 14, 2010

Busy, busy, busy…money, money, money, do I have enough cash and credit available to get through the next month or even the next few weeks?  It is a tough time of year for those who  celebrate Christmas…in this country, at least…What is it all about? It seems that no matter what one’s intentions are to “keep it simple” or not to be over extended…we just get caught up in the process and all of a sudden you are on a runaway train…The mind is going. Every day you wake up with the subject of shopping and how to make it work – on your mind – and you review your lists to determine what you’ve done so far, what you can eliminate and how to find the time to do all that you need to before the “big day”.  the stresses and strains are enormous on most people.  Even if you are one of the “lucky ones” who doesn’t have to worry about the financial cost, the time issues…how to get it all done…the whole thing is enormous…the stress is incredible.

Isn’t it just ridiculous? All of this fuss related to the birth of one person?  Yes, I realize that Christians believe he was “The One”. What does the birth of Christ have to do with all of the hoopla?  Gifts for everyone in the world, cookie baking (why?),Christmas caroling, stringing popcorn, excessive amounts of calorie and fat ridden food, new clothing for “the day”, decorating the house and making sure everything looks perfect.  Yes, it is absurd.  None of what we do is at all related to the birth of Christ.  Actually, there is one thing that would be in sync with the reason for the season…helping others, donating to organizations who help the poor or hungry, adopting a family and  helping to make their lives better, reach out to someone who has become unemployed with concrete help (do something for them that will make a difference.

The real difficulty is in stepping back and being able to shift how you handle all of this; much of what we do and our expectations of how things should be comes from our childhood and family of origin’s traditions, cultural values, financial situation and the way our parents thought things should be-what they wanted or expected..it goes on and on and on. What is really nuts is that we are trying to live up to what they wanted based on what their childhoods were like-what they did and didn’t have, want or need.  So here we are plodding along…no wonder we feel like robots…most of what we do is based on other people’s decisions about what is needed and acceptable.

Step back, take a deep breath, do a little writing about what you are feeling (yes, you do have time to write-get up an hour earlier)- and about what YOU NEED to be whole. Eliminate that which does not make sense to you any more. Talk with your family about how to celebrate without creating nonsensical amounts of stress and strain; ask for suggestions from your children for ways to add  meaning to our experiences.  Decide what matters and make some changes accordingly.

And when you start to think about your New Year’s resolutions…don’t make the list…just make one decision…to read and write every week…3 or 4 hours, half reading, half writing. If you do that, by this time next year, your life will be much simpler.

This is MeddlingMom…keep asking…is this really necessary or important…and why?

Does Swearing Reduce Pain? The pain of road rage…and Botox

December 10, 2010

Holy @//!#!, does it ever! Or so concludes a British study published recently in the journal NeuroReport.

It makes perfect sense…think about whether you feel better when you swear…some of us do.  It can give great relief and release to spout out obscenities. According to the British study, swearing can actually help to diminish pain.

Aside from the actual pain issue in the study, how do you feel about swearing in general?  I feel that sometimes a specific curse word can really drive home a point; others feel that cursing is a cop out for doing the work and finding the correct word to impart one’s thoughts and  feelings. Or they simply aren’t comfortable hearing curse words.  How you feel about someone using an actual word verses cursing in anger are also other issues to be reviewed and digested by each of us.  I, personally, don’t identify with anger being spewed about so when someone yells and screams (whether cursing or not), I am turned off and tend to shut down wanting to shut out the entire incident even though the anger may not be directed at me.  I wish the person would just stop.

A case in point would be road rage…driving along in a car with someone when that person gets c-r-a-a-z-y over something that happens on the road, something that cannot be controlled by anyone in our vehicle.  Here we have come full circle …here is a topic not often addressed…there is pain inflicted by those who exhibit road rage…the pain is inflicted on others in the same vehicle, not on the jerk in another car who may not even know he/she he is bothering anyone!  When you do have road rage, remember that you are inflicting pain on the passengers in YOUR car, people who you have CHOSEN  (presumably) to spend time with..people who cannot get away from your ranting even though they did not cause the ranting…hostages, if you will.   It sucks….merely innocent bystanders.

Yes, I have gotten off the subject..cursing does help you to endure pain so if you are in labor, you may actually be able to deal with the pain if you curse…go at it…girl!  Why not?  While it may not feel like your most glorious moment after the fact…it may help you tremendously at that painful moment….
Speaking of pain…I wonder… I am fortunate to have been able to have  a botox  injection (actually in 8 places on my face) the other day for a facial spasm…it can hurt…I try to breathe and count backwards in my head and be very quiet in my entire being. I think it helps…you know that isn’t a time when one can entertain the type of breathing recommended for childbirth…panting would not work…it might distract my doctor and the injection could end up in the wrong place with an odd result to say the least…No, I don’t think I will resort to swearing while I get these injections…not prudent…Since one of the links here mentions finding  a qualified dermatologist for botox injections, I should mention that for my situation, my physician is a highly specialized ophthalmologist .

So, folks, I say swear away and if you are angry, it is best to swear while alone unless you want to swear at the person who has made you angry.  There are other ways to deal with your anger…oh, I will save that for another day….you could always do some writing and sort out your feelings…blah…blah…blah…(that might take some work!)

This is MeddlingMom…let me know what you think!

Elizabeth Edwards- full of grace-has died at age 61

December 7, 2010

Elizabeth Edwards, a woman who we came to know via her husband John Edwards, has left the American public with a gift. She was a woman who was full of grace. I see her as someone who was on our radar, who campaigned with her husband, but who left a lasting impression on our lives.  She had much to deal with in terms of challenges and tragedies..having lost her son Wade to a car accident at age 16, dealing with her cancer diagnosis and being publicly embarrassed by her husband’s adultery and child with another woman.

Elizabeth wrote several books…her writing was down-to-earth, her feelings deep and understandable.

Saving Graces: Finding Solace and Strength from Friends and Strangers

and    Resilience: Reflections on the Burdens and Gifts of Facing Life’s Adversities .

What I saw about Elizabeth Edwards was that she was completely dedicated to her family, to her country and to doing the right thing. She was an attorney.  She was a mom.  She had a solid inner core that allowed her to see what was necessary for a situation and the people involved.  She was on-target in her thinking.  She was not reactionary, but did know when to take action.  She had a peace and a resolve about her that stood the test of time and allowed her to be a success. PERIOD.

Some definitions of the word grace:

  • (Christian theology) a state of sanctification by God; the state of one who is under such divine influence; “the conception of grace developed alongside the conception of sin”; “it was debated whether saving grace could be obtained outside the membership of the church…
  • elegance and beauty of movement or expression; “a beautiful figure which she used in subtle movements of unparalleled grace”
  • seemliness: a sense of propriety and consideration for others; “a place where the company of others must be accepted with good grace”
  • a disposition to kindness and compassion; “the victor’s grace in treating the vanquished”
  • (Greek mythology) one of three sisters who were the givers of beauty and charm; a favorite subject for sculptors

I hope Elizabeth has found peace. She left us inspired … to be our best. Because SHE put her best foot forward and kept plodding along …always leaving love and kindness wherever she had been. ….

This is MeddingMom….emulate Elizabeth…just try it…

The Cheaper, Cleaner Toilet Paper Alternative

December 5, 2010

Take a look at this fascinating information. It makes a lot of sense…

Dr. Mercola has a great idea about a way to be cleaner and help to save the environment…a good holiday gift to yourself and others! Be sure to view the video and then put your cursor at the bottom of the video screen to view a number of other video clips, some enlightening and some just plain strange!

Here’s another interesting article about bidetshttp://www.articlesbase.com/bath-showers-articles/benefits-of-a-toilet-bidet-267279.html

Here is info and a link for a travel bidet…seems quite convenient. What I am wondering is…if I start using a bidet, will I become OCD about it…will I become neurotic about toilet habits and conditions. If there is one thing I know I don’t want, it is to have more things in my life become “issues” or to complicate my life with more things that I need in order to be content and happy…The truth is, that a bidet does sound like you would feel remarkably clean.  Rinsing after using the toilet DOES make sense…

A bidet attachment would be a great holiday gift for yourself or a friend or family member.

This is MeddlingMom…have a great day!


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