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Electronic Challenges

May 27, 2013

Boy! Am I ever challenged!

Yesterday I decided to look up whether I had won anything on any of my lottery tickets from my birthday last Saturday.   Somehow I ended up in something that told me to download in order to see results (winning numbers). I hesitated to do so. I kind of remembered getting into trouble awhile back when I downloaded something and it entirely changed my toolbar and all kinds of other things I use every day. But-like a fool-I clicked on that download button. It took me to all kinds of pages and I just kept moving forward and complying…UGH! I hate when I comply when I just know that I shouldn’t be.

Well, I was right about my feelings-what a mess! I was so frustrated with the new look of my toolbar. I paid the price for about 20 minutes trying to figure out how to undo what I had downloaded.  I did eventually come to several places where they allow you and walk you through the process…but there were some instructions I did not entirely understand and, frankly, I was afraid to select anything when I came to those. So..I started looking at the toolbar and saw some things that were new and interesting. One was a drop down with radio stations….I thought, “Oh, that’s cool, I can listen to WHYY radio without having to think about looking for their link!”  So I fooled around for a few seconds and turned on some station which had 80’s hits…not MY favorite, but my partner was sitting right next to me and they ARE her favorite-she’s an 80’s girl in terms of music, anyway. So that was fun.

Then I realized that when I tried to open a new link, it took me into a MyWebSearch Home Page powered by Google. Now that was what took over my computer the last time I got into trouble and I hated that at the time. But this time after about 15 minutes of frustration, I realized that all of the icons for so many favorite places to visit were under the window…Facebook, You Tube, LinkedIn, CNN, Pinterest, ebay and others…so that seemed like fun!  I was starting to realize this might be a good thing.  I was annoyed that when I went to  open a new page,  it took me to the page I just mentioned instead of the Google home page. Then I realized that I still have my Google search window and that takes me to the Google home page.  That’s good, right? I still have access to Google’s  cute commemorative pictures!

So I guess I am writing today to tell you that you might want to try this…a new toolbar from MyWebSearch…It’s working for me and I am, frankly, quite delighted! Lots of what’s on here will make my life easier…so I am proud to say that I am learning to look for what might be good in the midst of my traumas.

Now on to the the next technological challenge…#?/%+^@#..wish me luck, I sure need it!

This is MeddlingMom….have a wonderful week…

World Cancer Day – Light a Candle

June 13, 2011

I received an e-mail today stating that Friday is World Cancer Day. Here’s what it said:
Friday is world cancer day – I’d appreciate it if you will forward this request:

93% won’t forward
A small request.. Just one line.
Dear God, I pray for a cure for cancer. Amen
All you are asked to do is keep this circulating, even if it’s only to one more person.
In memory of anyone you know who has been struck down by cancer or is still living with it.
A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle..
Please Keep This Candle Going

There was a pretty picture with it and I tried several times to copy and paste it to the blog..Technology! Ugh! That prompted me to Google World Cancer Day. looking for a picture, thinking I could paste that to the blog. What I found out was that the designated day was on February 4, 2011…it seems it is still circulating, right? So I thought…it doesn’t matter that the day isn’t on Friday…what matters is the prayer, the sentiment, all of the people who will be remembered and thought of because of this message. The person who sent me the message is a cancer survivor…34 years. I, too, am a cancer survivor…almost 7 years…in September.

So please rally, think about those you know who have had cancer and light a candle…you can light it today if you want…no need to wait ’til Friday…I just tried to copy and paste another candle…couldn’t do it…oh, well, I CAN light a candle right now!
Every day is World Cancer Day.

This is MeddlingMom…the only things that really matter are LOVE and people…

Acupuncture is beneficial to your health!

June 1, 2011

On March 7, 2011 World News with Diane Sawyer covered a story reporting new research regarding Acupuncture and its health benefits.  The story was related to a study in Turkey; the participants were post menopausal women.  Though the study was a small one, the women who received Acupuncture had a significant improvement in their hot flashes, whereas those who did not receive the Acupuncture (but thought they had) did not have improvement.

I don’t know whether you have ever experienced acupuncture; I have.  About two years ago, I decided to seek an acupuncturist. I had wanted to see what acupuncture was like for quite a long time. I hadn’t gotten around to it, largely because most medical insurance did not seem to cover any form of alternative medicine.  I mentioned acupuncture to my daughter who told me her friend went to a practitioner who was a part of the  Community Acupuncture Network (CAN).  I googled it.

Here  is  CAN’s mission statement: Community Acupuncture Network (CAN) is a non-profit organization of practitioners, patients, and supporters whose goal is to make acupuncture more affordable and accessible by promoting the practice of offering acupuncture in community settings for a sliding scale ranging within $15-40 a treatment. I made an appointment with the center where my daughter’s friend had gone; I was not disappointed.  What a wonderful experience.  It was recommended that I seek further treatment at a CAN center closer to where I lived due to  geographic and traffic issues.

So I went to see Dave Schiman.  His office is about 25 minutes from my house. The office is part of a community and offers community to its clients. The tables are laden with articles, reading materials, notices of classes on nutrition and a variety of other bits of information, all available to help you have a better and healthier life and be a part of a community if you are so inclined. Dave is  a wonderful Acupuncturist…an amazing man. He is truly concerned and committed to helping each person to  leave feeling better or at least to be on the way to a good result. Although CAN’s structure seems to not allow for the practitioner to spend much time talking with you, Dave doesn’t really adhere to that concept.  He wants to know what’s going on, what your concerns are and he does not rush  through that conversation. He is seeking information which will help him to treat you more effectively. He is happy to answer any of your questions.

Acupuncture does not hurt; sometimes you might feel a little tenderness when your acupuncturist moves a needle to see if it is in the right spot-that’s a good thing-it provides information.  I understand that when you go to a regular acupuncturist you have a 1/2 hour appointment usually.  When you go to a CAN practitioner, your needles are inserted while you are in a Lazy Boy recliner (tough assignment, huh?).  After the needles are inserted, you go to sleep in a room with a number of other people who are also sleeping.  When you wake up, you are “done”, ready to go home.  The needles are removed and you feel like you have had a wonderful pampered existence for the past 1 to 2 hours!

I requested some information from Dave so that I could include his experience in this posting. Here is some of what he said:

Regarding infertility, I’ve had an 80% success rate in that realm. I work with a lot of women for infertility. It usually takes 2 to 3 months to get the cycle normalized and then 3 to 6 months for the women to conceive.  It greatly enhances the success of IVF treatments and many IVF and fertility docs recommend their patients receive acupuncture treatment while they are undergoing they fertiltity treatments.

Hot flashes usually respond quickly to acupuncture but about 20% of women, in my experience, get no relief.
Here are a few articles about this:
Acupuncture Improves Sex Drive and Decreases Hot Flashes:
And this one is more neutral:
So, here are some links about acupuncture specifically in regards to women’s issues:
Acupuncture treats dysmenorrhea
Acupuncture to Regulate Menstruation and Promote Fertility
Most women who come in for acupuncture treatment find that their periods become more regular and smoother after a month or two of treatment, even if that’s not why they came!
I hope you will visit Dave and Roxborough Community Acupuncture’s site and also CAN‘s to learn more about acupuncture and how it might benefit you!
This is MeddlingMom…treat yourself to acupuncture…you will be delighted!

Too much to do! and think about! ALWAYS!

April 4, 2011

I was wondering what to write about, what might interest people and I realized that in the course of a day or a week, I am exposed to so much information that I can barely breathe…much less figure out what to write about…..the problem is that I receive way too much e-mail from way too many organizations, individuals, stores and of course, there are those newsletters and blogs.  I am exhausted over the responsibility I feel to learn about everything, to be knowledgeable, to be up-to-date on current events (in this area I am waaaybehind) and to just feel like I have my head on straight!

Does anyone else feel this way or am I simply nuts? It seems daily living has become so complicated…the details of keeping up are mind-boggling.  I’ll give you an example:  I was online the other day looking at my bank accounts.  I saw a $3.00 fee for making too many transfers from one account to another in a month’s time (I made 3).  Let’s get real…these are ELECTRONIC transactions!!! Is there someone who has to do something about the transactions which would justify a fee?  Yes, I realize they have technicians who keep all of their computer systems running smoothly.  While on the phone, I asked one more time about the fee I pay monthly for having a checking account.  I was told if I had a direct deposit automatically into the account, I would have no fee.  Since I am self-employed and have a very small business, there is no check from payroll.  Then I was told if I wanted to have an electronic, paperless acoount, I could have it for free.  That would mean I would have to do all transactions at the ATM machine.  I usually use that for deposits anyway, but…I didn’t think to ask whether that meant I could no longer go to  a teller inside the bank or whether the restriction was only for the teller at the drive-up window…hmmm…..then again, I do stop and think about what a bargain it is to have the use of an account for just a few dollars (not as few as it used to be, I might add). Really, we Americans don’t realize how much we have!  Why should the account be free when the bank is providing a service…they should receive something, right?  I mean they have a  building and employees at the local branch, heat, electric, phones…they do have to pay for all of this…

I digress.  the point is that this is one little minor aspect of my life.  When did everything become so complicated? Was I asleep for 20 years?  Another thing that makes me insane…I purchased a camera recently…and a printer…the only thing that was included as far as instructions was the “Quick Guide”…no REAL information came with either of these items, nothing to tell me how to use the new item and the features  and how they work!  It’s unbelievable…they tell you to go online to their site and that’s where the information is! If you’re lucky, there is an actual manual that you can download…otherwise, there is all kinds of info, so much that it is damn near impossible to decipher which information you need to read to resolve your issue.  Remember, you are only on the site because you have no idea how to use the new item…all you really wanted was a manual in English that is clear and complete.

I can’t believe I am even burdening you with such nonsense, but the truth is…these “things” seem to take up so much time and energy!  Imagine if you were hard-of hearing and couldn’t hear the voice prompts?  Oh, dear, never thought of that before, but those days are probably coming…

I have no solution for this stuff, except to remember how lucky you are to be here and to have LIFE.  The truth is… being flexible and not taking life too  seriously is just about all you have available to deal with these situations. Being flexible in your thinking can help you to survive the crazy, over-stimulating world we live in today!  Just laugh or sing out loud and be sure to appreciate that you are speaking to a human on the phone, someone who is trying to help you…rather than a recording.

On another subject, I have started exercising in the mornings.  Did you know that ON DEMAND has exercise routines for free?  We’re talking … just about any kind you could imagine, yoga, core, dancing, and every aspect of these in as little time as 8 minutes.  They also have meditation in the same area.  This morning I did a Hip Hop session.  It was pretty basic, but it got  funny as one movement that was introduced simply didn’t work for me. It was one of those deals where you use one foot and leg and the reverse arm at the same time…quickly…I didn’t really focus too much on making it happen. I just kept moving (that’s the idea, right?) and I actually found myself laughing out loud at how bad I was with this one particular move!  Silly, but it was fun and I got in some exercise.  The challenge is to do a routine every day and to gradually add more time (and maybe some weights) to it.

It’s true, one of the few things you can count on is… to be flexible in your thinking and to anticipate that adapting will be needed often in your life will make your life much easier…EXPECT to have to be flexible…The tree that bends weathers the storm….

This is MeddlingMom…have a great day!

Hemifacial Spasms-have you heard of this?

February 21, 2011

I have had a hemifacial spasm on the left side of my face for close to 3 years now.  It started out as an eye twitch and eventually became evident on the entire side of my face.  Initially I  didn’t know what it was.  I consulted a neurologist and had all necessary testing which revealed that there was no critical physical problem. Most often this condition is caused by a blood vessel resting on a facial nerve. The doctor prescribed some medication, an old Parkinson’s drug, which seemed to help somewhat initially.  It made my mouth so dry that I was making very weird faces attempting to get some saliva going in my mouth.  When there is a spasm (they are sporadic and random), my vision can be affected.  Sometimes it is difficult to see while it is happening.  There is no pain, but it can be difficult to control my face and the smile that I used to have on my face most of the time has diminished into looking like I am angry oftentimes; I am using my energy trying to control the muscles in my face.  I can look pretty ghoulish, too. 

Drawing: patient with hemifacial spasm

I have tried to be a good sport.  I know that there are far worse conditions that people deal with every day.  I am truly tired, exhausted from trying to control my face.  It is difficult to have my vision disrupted.  The stress can be rough. I feel like I am not me. My left eye feels like it is dilated and tears.

My ophthalmologist referred  me to a BOTOX specialist, in this case ….an Ophthalmologist, a top doc in Philadelphia..    BOTOX does help somewhat, but it is an art, not an exact science.  I have been treated with BOTOX 4 times so far.  I am told that it usually lasts 3 to 6 months. For me it seems to work for about 6 or 7 weeks.  I don’t really want to keep receiving BOTOX injections. I would prefer to find another method of treatment.  I have tried acupuncture which I believe does help. I have tried B100 vitamins, geranium oil topically on my face. I haven’t tried meditation yet.  So I am tired, sick of the subject, tired of having photos taken where I look like I have had a stroke (this is not a photo of me).  I just want to be done with this  situation and have my face back!  I understand that surgery is an option also…vascular decompression.

I understand that this condition is extremely rare in males…

This is MeddlingMom….have a good week.

The New Year…one month in…what do YOU want?

February 1, 2011

It’s difficult to believe that almost a month has gone by since the new year started….it just blew by…first the virus that was going around came through our house with a force.  After that a not-so-common cold came through. I have had it for 3 weeks…the doctor says it is  nothing!  I don’t know about you, but being in the Philadelphia area, I am so disgusted with the weather.  Bitter weather arrived, I believe, around mid-November.  Then the snow started.  The bitter cold left a week or so ago. I was out doing errands one day and saw someone wearing no coat.  It actually felt like it was spring by comparison to the 2 months prior; the temperature was around 32  that day! 

In addition to the nastiness we had, it has been snowing the past few weeks twice  a week! Yes, that’s what I said TWICE A WEEK!  That is really unheard of for this area!  A few years ago we barely took our shovels out of the garage and then it was for a few inches!  So I would imagine with the massive storm that is blanketing 30 states that most people reading this would say they are sick and tired of winter. And it being February 1st, we are probably not finished with bad weather for the season.

At the very least, there are probably loads of people who are feeling some sense of depression or seasonal affective disorder.  One of things that has me so ticked off is the unpredictability of a day’s events. With the threat of snow or ice comes the added job of waking up earlier to check to see if snow removal is needed and if it is the phone call and tending to the snow removal person.  Morning  and getting ready for the day is stressful enough without dealing with the special needs of the snow/rain/weather forecast.  Do we have ice melt? What does this particular day’s events and predictions need? It takes away one’s ability to start the day with any peace at all.  Okay, enough of that…on to what’s really important.

Forget about New Year’s resolutions…have you been thinking throughout January about what you really want to change in your life…other than the size of your hips or thighs (which is also an admirable change)…this is a great time to do some daily or weekly writing…to get in touch with yourself and what is working in your life and what needs adjusting…what gnaws at you…what brings you peace.  Even a few minutes of meditation can be helpful to you finding what you need…it isn’t difficult to do…takes no time to learn…take a look at Deepak Chopra’s quick meditation method on Dr. Oz’s site.  It can be done is 5 minutes or so.  As a Personal Life Coach/Strategist, I also have a method that I have introduced my clients to. Here’s how it works: When you find yourself stressed…maybe at work or at home or in the car, find a quiet place. It can be a stall in the rest room, or you can pull over on the side of the road.  Close your eyes and take a few deep and slow breaths…allowing yourself to just breathe and think about nothing.  Do that for about 5 minutes…you will feel better, your anxiety and upet will have diminished and you will have found a new way to take care of yourself…and it is free!  And renewable any time you need to decompress, you now have the tools to do so quickly! Not bad!

Meditating or writing in the early morning may give you a tranquility that will result in clarity for you; you will see what’s working for you and what is not.  This is a super way to jump start your day!

This is MeddlingMom….Namaste

Discontinued? Buy in Bulk!

January 20, 2011

Stock up! Buy ahead!  Everything gets discontinued!

I am sick of it!  Sick, sick, sick…it started out for me years ago with bras..I’d spend all this time finding the right bra, the perfect bra, buy a few and I’d go home very content.  Then a year would go by and I would want to buy new bras, I’d return to the store to buy them and the bra I had been so happy with was no longer available…oh, come on…please…it is just all too much…the bra is gone, whisked away, no longer on the face of the earth. Did the manufacturer consult you or me before making such a huge change in our lives? No…The company simply doesn’t care about how hard it is to find the perfect bra- the one that is comfy, doesn’t ride up, doesn’t bind, makes your “girls” look perky or however you want them to look.

That’s just the beginning of it..

We are trying to go “green” and organic at our house. Now you know how difficult it is even decide to attempt such huge changes, to research products, to try a new product (or new to you), see if you like it, commit to it (because it’s good for you and the planet).  Oh, you get so excited about it – the fact that you are using THIS ONE PRODUCT and LIKE IT and IT IS GREEN!!!  And of course in the back of your mind is the question, how green is it ? …how do I know or is just passing itself off as green?  you know the drill…on and on… So imagine my disappointment…I found a great detergent for washing dishes at the sink.  It is green.  I tried another green one about 4 months ago and hated it – so I made sure to go back and buy the one I liked again.

Well, for the past 2 weeks, my liquid has been threatening to completely disappear from the bottle – it is almost gone.  I went to the store – they said it would be in in a few days.  I went back to the store- they said it’s been discontinued. NO-O-O-O-O=O!!!  I called 2 of the chain’s other stores.  The second one had 5 of them on the shelf.  I asked them to put them aside for me.  Now you know these will probably last for 2 years or close to it!  Whew!! I feel relieved!  That gives me a reprieve…some time to find another product that is comparable!

We have all had the same situation with many other products, your mascara no longer comes in dark brown (it’s only available in black now), the undies you’ve been buying for years don’t exist anymore, Mr Salty pretzels are nowhere! Why?  They were so good! Chef Boyardee canned cheese raviolis are gone! The worst is lipstick…they take away a favorite color and you are lost and bewildered in a sea of colors at the cosmetic counter.  That is such a hated job, finding the right lipstick, The list goes on and on and on…

It makes you wonder..the companies do much marketing to get people to try and buy a product and to enjoy that product..It’s odd that the people don”t count …of course most products are probably discontinued due to lack of sales….it just seems there should be something in place to poll people to see if they are ready to give up that item…I guess there is’s called sales…but maybe they could try to create a more sophisticated system.  The fact that WE aren’t buying ENOUGH of the item doesn’t mean we aren’t important, does it?

So it comes down to the fact that we Americans, who have so much available to us, simply can’t have what we want always. We have to adapt to not being able to find Zero candy bars and so many other items…sometimes we don’t even realize an item isn’t around.  It suddenly pops into your head,”Hey! Whatever happened to….?”

My advice is that after you have found that you like an item, go back and stock up…get a year’s worth to ease your pain should that item disappear from the store shelves.

I would love to hear from you if you have some items that have disappointed you by disappearing…

This is MeddlingMom…

The Christmas Crunch – Shopping-Spending-Stressing-WHY???

December 14, 2010

Busy, busy, busy…money, money, money, do I have enough cash and credit available to get through the next month or even the next few weeks?  It is a tough time of year for those who  celebrate Christmas…in this country, at least…What is it all about? It seems that no matter what one’s intentions are to “keep it simple” or not to be over extended…we just get caught up in the process and all of a sudden you are on a runaway train…The mind is going. Every day you wake up with the subject of shopping and how to make it work – on your mind – and you review your lists to determine what you’ve done so far, what you can eliminate and how to find the time to do all that you need to before the “big day”.  the stresses and strains are enormous on most people.  Even if you are one of the “lucky ones” who doesn’t have to worry about the financial cost, the time issues…how to get it all done…the whole thing is enormous…the stress is incredible.

Isn’t it just ridiculous? All of this fuss related to the birth of one person?  Yes, I realize that Christians believe he was “The One”. What does the birth of Christ have to do with all of the hoopla?  Gifts for everyone in the world, cookie baking (why?),Christmas caroling, stringing popcorn, excessive amounts of calorie and fat ridden food, new clothing for “the day”, decorating the house and making sure everything looks perfect.  Yes, it is absurd.  None of what we do is at all related to the birth of Christ.  Actually, there is one thing that would be in sync with the reason for the season…helping others, donating to organizations who help the poor or hungry, adopting a family and  helping to make their lives better, reach out to someone who has become unemployed with concrete help (do something for them that will make a difference.

The real difficulty is in stepping back and being able to shift how you handle all of this; much of what we do and our expectations of how things should be comes from our childhood and family of origin’s traditions, cultural values, financial situation and the way our parents thought things should be-what they wanted or goes on and on and on. What is really nuts is that we are trying to live up to what they wanted based on what their childhoods were like-what they did and didn’t have, want or need.  So here we are plodding along…no wonder we feel like robots…most of what we do is based on other people’s decisions about what is needed and acceptable.

Step back, take a deep breath, do a little writing about what you are feeling (yes, you do have time to write-get up an hour earlier)- and about what YOU NEED to be whole. Eliminate that which does not make sense to you any more. Talk with your family about how to celebrate without creating nonsensical amounts of stress and strain; ask for suggestions from your children for ways to add  meaning to our experiences.  Decide what matters and make some changes accordingly.

And when you start to think about your New Year’s resolutions…don’t make the list…just make one decision…to read and write every week…3 or 4 hours, half reading, half writing. If you do that, by this time next year, your life will be much simpler.

This is MeddlingMom…keep asking…is this really necessary or important…and why?

Technology Update

October 6, 2010

I  recently wrote about the trials and tribulations of copying a video on my dvd recorder and being able to watch it on a different dvd player.  After I wrote that blog entry, I decided to call tech support for the player on which I wanted to watch the dvd.  I was told that it should play and that if it didn’t, I hadn’t finalized the recording. I said that I had because when I record it tells you that it is finalizing when you complete recording. I thought I should check out the recorder to see if there was something I had missed. I got out the manual and discovered that going in to another menu, my dvd’s had finalized except that on each one the last 4 minutes had not finalized.  I corrected the problem by finalizing each one…it only took about a minute on each because only 4 minutes hadn’t been finalized earlier…so…voila! I now can view the discs on other dvd players!  Hope that helps you!

This is MeddlingMom

Transition-Changes in the Workplace-Adjusting

September 23, 2010

Ah, your job…you go there every day and expect certain things to be the same…your manager, your benefits, your workspace, expectations of you and the people who surround you and make your work environment enjoyable. A friend of mine recently had a change in her work space, a change that she had no opportunity to impact. It was simply thrust on her. Now, mind you, she has a good job, one which she is not anxious to leave.  On Friday her entire workspace was moved to an area where the only person within 25 feet is her manager. Oh, that sounds like fun, right?

The truth is, her manager is a “good guy”, but even so…exchanging being with your compadres with being with your boss? Mmmm…I don’t think so…but that is what she is left to deal with… when she arrived at work this week, her workspace was less than desirable to say the least. Coping can be quite a challenge.  First of all her computer wasn’t on the right side of her desk, there was some industrial hook hanging above her (she works in a manufacturing environment)…not a cool or safe way to go.  It was pretty depressing….

The human spirit is fascinating and we are infinitely creative and flexible. The next day when she arrived at work, the situation got better as she proceeded through her workday.  What happened? Someone removed the dangerous metal hook…that was a good thing…then, that same person came over and adjusted the goings on related to her computer, so that now her computer was in the right place and she could start to feel more “at home” with her work space.  The next day was even better…she discovered a bonus! Although she was next to her immediate superior, she was on the far side of his workspace; he was facing the rest of the room…nobody could see her and what she was doing! Not that she is doing anything wrong, but it is definitely nice to NOT be in a fish bowl (or feel like you are).
Time will tell whether this space will truly work for my friend,, but at this point, we seem to have the  ultimate example of turning lemons into lemonade!

This is MeddlingMom……remember to do your shopping early, if you have a son or brother living away from home, take a look at

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